It's All About the Vibes, Man.

I'm not sure how many people know this about me, but I completely believe in the law of attraction. Many of you have probably either read, seen, or heard about 'The Secret.' Now I'm not saying that 'The Secret' holds all of life's answers. But it did open up an area for me to explore a little.

If you don't know much about the law of attraction, I'll give you the nutshell version (since I'm not writing a blog to teach this stuff). Basically, it says that whatever you put out there, you get back. You put out good vibes, you get good things back. It really gets a lot more complicated than that, like being grateful for what you have, and making room in your life to get the things that you want. I'll include some books at the end of this post that I like. Why am I telling you all of this stuff? Well, it's sort of the intro to a story I remembered the other day. And here it is:

Almost two years ago, we were planning a trip to the Outer Banks, NC. This is a place where we go every couple of years with the Downey family. We were excited about going, and really looking forward to spending some 'quality' family time together. There was one thing that Tony had always wanted to do on these trips. He always wanted to go deep sea fishing. He wanted that feeling of being strapped into a chair with that huge fishing rod, reeling in the 'big one.' A couple of months before the trip, we were chatting about this in our kitchen before he left for work. He said "I don't know how I'm going to do it, but I'm going deep sea fishing this year. I've decided."

I thought "Ummmm, OK. I don't know how we're going to pay for one big huge fishing trip." He had attempted to get a fishing trip together about 4 or 5 years prior. The trip that he booked didn't exactly live up to his expectations. There was a group of maybe 6 guys, and they went out on a boat, but there wasn't really any 'deep sea' involved. They went fishing. Pretty much, regular old fishing out in the ocean. When the first guy started reeling in a fish, he got ready for a big fight. As he pulled back on the rod and started reeling his catch in, the fish literally skipped across the top of the water.

Well, here's what happened a few days after that kitchen conversation. At this time, Tony worked at a hotel bar at the airport. He was chatting with his guests, and mentioned his upcoming trip to the Outer Banks. One of his semi-regular guests said that he was also going to be in the Outer Banks around the same time. He started to tell Tony about how they charter a million dollar boat every year to go deep sea fishing. Tony, seeing this as his golden opportunity, asked if they had room for an extra guy. He said that he'd definitely pay his way. Matt (his guest) said that yes, he might have room for an extra guy. But they would have to figure out if they were going to be there the same week (Note: Why do guys NEVER know when things are happening. Tony was only semi-sure of the dates we would be there, and same with Matt. Women have to deal with all of the details!).

The next day, Tony told me about what had happened. He was super pumped, and that day we got an email saying that yes, we would all be there the same week. We went on vacation, Tony caught a 65 pound Tuna, and he had one of the best days of his life. (OK, next to marrying me and having the kids--I hope.) The day of his trip, the rest of our extended family had gone out to dinner, and the girls and I waited at the cottage for Tony's return. He walked in the door with a gigantic smile and a radiant glow. He just looked so farkin' happy!

The point? Tony decided that the deep sea fishing was happening. He concentrated on it, and put it out there. And sure enough, it happened. I can say this for many things in our lives, incuding the opening of our restaurant. If you want to read up on any of this, check out the books below.

If you think I'm a crackpot, that's OK, too.

Sometimes I think I'm a crackpot.